Do you often feel disappointed about who you are or what you have? If the answer is yes, you’re not alone. When I focus on what I don’t have instead of what I do have, I feel super bummed out. I feel empty inside, I get a bad attitude, and I feel afraid that I’m not going to meet my goals. It sucks my positive energy until it’s all gone.

I don’t want to feel all that crummy stuff. I want to feel excited and full of happiness so I can keep doing what I love doing. I want my positive vibes to come back to me! So I am learning to focus on what I DO have.

When I started shifting my focus to the positive side of life, I felt my sad feelings change to mixed feelings. And that’s a step in the right direction!

It’s really not that easy to stay focused on the positives; you will probably step off the right track and start feeling down again. You might want to give up when the ugly feelings keep coming back. Don’t give up, fight the feeling!  Most people feel disappointed from time to time, but new possibilities can come their way if they are working to stay positive.

Make encouraging comments to yourself, it really does help. You can try saying things like, “You can do this!” or “It’s ok, next time I’ll do better”.  It might feel silly at first but it starts to work once you start to believe it. Then you’ll be able to calm yourself down as much as you need to.

We all need to feel relaxed sometimes, and if you’re always thinking about what you don’t have it’s hard to relax and impossible to chill. Sometimes it takes courage to really look at yourself and discover that things aren’t as bad as you thought. Find yourself and have fun.